With lively intonations and a flair for performance Elaine is sure to entertain as she reads a story to your group either virtually or in-person. She will gladly answer questions and offer her insights on a wide range of topics gleaned from her memoirs.
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Formative Years and foray into adulthood
I rode my bike as far as I wanted. Once, I rode across the city past the racial divide. It was my younger brother’s idea. Why not? I was never told about limits. On one hand with Vietnam, I was learning that the world was unsafe while also being able to roam free and unencumbered.
I’d go on to have an intimate relationship with not only Billy Joel’s music, but with meeting him on several occasions. The first was when I was fifteen, in 1975. I was determined to meet him at the Academy of Music
..this new child received only a reluctant welcome. Is that a mean thing to say? I wish that I had a dream to be a mother because these were two beautiful and healthy babies.
These babies are totally dependent on me for their every need; society has no built-in support apparatus for vulnerable women like me. It’s daunting, really. I read about the kibbitzes in Israel and fantasize about such communal living arrangement options where the burdens of child-rearing are shared among a group.
I learned to be a survivor. It came in handy dealing with the Principal at the school I was teaching.
I was in fifth grade when I began getting anonymous phone calls from a man. The year would have been 1970. It was impossible to have a private conversation. That didn’t matter in our household. No one cared who you spoke to or what you said.
Whirling and twirling making connections
Making A Living In The Conventional Arena A creative person can have enormous difficulty finding a suitable employment environment. We see things from a different perspective. But our ideas often are ignored. Perhaps our advanced observation skills threaten our superiors.
“That can’t be him, I thought as I watched said ‘match’ get out of the white Toyota in the parking lot of the restaurant. He is about one hundred pounds more that in the picture. How could someone do this? Just flat out lie as if I wouldn’t notice? I’m not wasting another minute on him.” I drove home.
I was becoming only slightly aware of possible legal ramifications but pushed them aside because the tantra teachers never addressed the law. Some of my clients said they were worried for me about the legal risks I was taking. I couldn’t fathom the police paying any attention to me...
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The Journey continues with even more twists and turns
My foray into the world of kink. One thing about kink is that it often does not involve any sex acts. When my clients were immersed in their world of fantasy they would enter a form of peaceful trance-like state.
A long term relationship comes to an abrupt end when a third person is inserted. Truly, it was not his fault that I’d become emotionally and financially codependent upon him. But that was the reality. I was devastated. How would I survive?
A depiction of the saga of the mental health system’s devastating incompetence as I experienced it in 2018 when I made the error of weaning myself from my medication. I headed down a dangerous road when I became very interested in natural remedies.
The influence of others was a steady stream of support
I hadn’t seen him as attractive or interesting, but as I came to feel safe and glad to see him, I gradually noticed his handsome features and great physic, even with tussled poorly styled hair and baggy grey sweatpants. He was a good-looking guy. As a matter of fact, his facial features were the same as Brad Pitts’! Holy Moley. What had happened?
These relationships began in middle school and would continue throughout my life. There was no doubt that I felt safe in each one’s presence and that with reassurance, love, guidance, support, professional care, and patience they helped me navigate the waters of adulthood. Through them I would learn compassion, commitment, loyalty, kindness, and generosity.
“Now we go to the gallery to see if you learned everything.” “Let’s do it.” The noise was overbearing. I wore a headset to curtail it. Then, with Josh repeating every step I stood straight as could be, aimed and shot at the paper target about fifty feet across the shooting gallery. I did it over and over again taking long pauses in between, until finally, I remembered the order of the steps.
The whirls and twirls appearing in the multitudes
The skiing accident could have killed me. So could’ve the fall off a cliff.
I was suddenly thrown backwards as the car was put in reverse. It dragged my body a good five feet before she applied the brake. Lying there waiting for an ambulance I said to my son, “go up in the kitchen and get me my medicine”. I took two valiums, planning for my ER visit knowing that I’d be agitated and ignored.
“I don’t know anyone who cashes in on insurance policies like you,” my friend Barry said. “Well, they should. That’s what there meant for.” If I needed the proverbial societal safety net, I didn’t hesitate to apply for that either. This was a dog-eat-dog world, and I was fending for myself. As a child, I’d never asked my parents for anything and wasn’t going to start now.
I have my own style. Don't read fashion magazines. Not trendy. I was me and that was obviously pissing some people off. Add that to the list of things people already found annoying about me - social awkwardness, the ability to say no, and a tendency to say what was on my mind. My list of long-lasting friends never grew much over the years.
Elaine Miles Razingelaine@outlook.com 267-934-4849
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